Affirmations for Grace
Ladies — we are so damn hard on ourselves. I've had this conversation with so many of my clients recently, so I wanted to bring it to you to be more gentle, more loving, and more gracious to yourself.
I think the downside of being ambitious women is that we see where we are falling short and where we have yet to go. That makes us great visionaries, but it can also make us really self-critical.
So today I want this to be a huge reminder to be gracious with yourself.
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Discussed in this episode:
The spiral that we can sometimes find ourselves in when our lives get messy
Utilizing "bridge beliefs" when you're not quite ready to affirm something new in your life
Approaching yourself as you would a child when something goes wrong
Affirmations that you can use to shift your mindset about yourself
The discipline of believing the best about yourself
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**This is a raw, unedited transcript.**
Speaker 1 (00:01):
Ladies ladies. We are so hard on ourselves. We are so hard on ourselves. <laugh> I've had this conversation with so many clients this week, so I wanted to bring it to you. This reminder, to be more gentle, more loving, more gracious with yourself. I think the downside of being ambitious women is we see where we are falling short. We see how far we have yet to go. Um, and that makes us great, like visionaries and great at moving forward, but also it can make us really self critical. So today I want this to be a huge reminder to be gracious with yourself, right? What does this mean? This means when you run into a problem, right? For example, your house is messy, right? Just being like, Hmm. My house is messy. Guess I gotta clean it. Instead, my house is messy. This means that my launch isn't gonna do well.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
This means that I'm a sloppy human being. However, can I expect myself to be a wealthy woman if I can't even keep my house clean, but like, do you see that spiral? Right? Same thing. Like if your launch isn't going great, right? Like my one launch didn't go great. It must mean I'm doomed as a business owner. What's wrong with me. I need to come instead of like, Hm. One of my launches didn't go great. Right? Really giving yourself gentleness, not catastrophizing and allowing yourself to be a messy human. I feel like I'm giving so many of my clients this permission and it's really normalizing and stabilizing because then we can deal with the hard thing that happened. If you haven't listened to my episode, red light, green light. That's a great episode for you around this topic too. But I think like life happens, right?
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Like we like the two examples I use, like our houses get messy are some, not all launches go perfect. Right? Like our kids get sick. Right. But the least last thing we wanna do is make it harder by criticizing ourself or by for being a human or having a messy life or by having SHA hit the fan. Right. So what I wanted to do in today's podcast episode is rather simple. I wanted to give you some really simple affirmations and I want to say them to you directly, because I think sometimes like I'm a big believer in like affirmations, but sometimes if we're in a really bad spot, it's hard to even to access the affirmations. You guys know I'm a big believer in bridge affirmations too. Right? So if you have a hard time believing, like I'm a successful business owner, right? You could always use a bridge belief.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Like I'm willing to believe that in the future, I will be a successful business owner, right. Or maybe you have a hard time believing I love my body. The affirmation could be I'm on the journey on the way to loving my beautiful body. Right. Um, I'm a big believer in bridge beliefs, but sometimes I think even those bridge beliefs are harping. We're in a moment of really feeling stuck or really feeling discouraged. Right? And so what I wanna do is I want to say some affirmations over you, and you can pretend that this is your highest self, your inner voice. You can pretend this is God speaking to you because I really feel like God is not masculine or feminine. God is, um, neither <laugh>. And so I don't feel like we like really channel the, the beauty of the feminine mothering attributes of God enough.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
So you can think about me as the voice of God. You can think about me as, um, your, like your voice, your, your highest self, your intuition, whatever feels good for you there as I'm really affirming you. And hopefully this is something you can come back to when you feel like you are being hard on yourself. Um, the more thing I wanna say too, a useful frame I've been giving to my clients is like talking to ourselves, like we would talk to our kids, right? Like, let's say your kids leave their shoes in the middle of the walkway. They don't put them on the shoe shelf. Not that this is something that's ever happened in my real life. Right. But I don't say like, oh my God, how dare you? You are a sloppy human being. I just address it. And I'm like, mm. Would you come back and put your shoe in the shoe shelf?
Speaker 1 (04:00):
That'll be great. Thanks. Right. And I think like, we just need to approach ourself with this too. You know, it doesn't mean like being in denial about our shortcomings, but it just means addressing them like, Ooh, Anna, you said you were gonna do your morning mindset work. You didn't do it. Let's get back to that tomorrow. Right. Do you see how that's a lot different than like you skipped your morning mindset work. You're never gonna be a success in business if you can't do this one thing. Right? Like, do you see how that's different? Right. And so I really want you to practice number one, not criticizing yourself when it comes to, um, you know, being a human, right. Not making it mean more than it is, but also really talking to yourself like you would talk to a child, right. We still address things, but we don't, we address the behavior and we don't address our who we are.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Right. A lot of times we make it mean that we are, um, like lazy or, you know, some sort of quality character quality about us instead of really affirming who we are and almost letting it be the opposite. Right. They always say with kids, I don't always do the best of this, but they always say like, Ooh, I know you're a responsible kid. So go ahead and put your shoes back. Right? Like almost the opposite of what we do to ourselves. Right. Which is criticizing. I'm gonna read some affirmations of, for you. Okay. You're doing a good job. I'm proud of you. I love you. You're a good girl. I love you. Just the way you are. You're safe. I'm gonna take care of you. You're special. You're beautiful. You're brilliant. It's safe to take up space. You're enough. You're right on time. It's safe to know what you want. You're not too much.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
You can trust yourself. You're in charge. You're easy to be around. You are so easy to love. Okay. I hope that those were useful. And I hope you can like hit, rewind, go back a minute or two to the start and listen to them as if you believe them right. At the end of every mastermind, round of cell with heart, we always, um, end by doing affirmations for each other and like affirming the good of what we've seen in each other. And it's really powerful. But I think sometimes like when people say kind things about us, we disregard it. Like if they really knew me, if they really knew who I was behind the scenes, if they knew this one shortcoming about me, right. Instead of really believing and knowing that there is good in you, that you are perfect as you are, that you are radiant, beautiful human being, right.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
It's so hard to believe that. And so I really want you to work on the discipline of believing the good in you believing the truth in you, just like kids, right? The more they feel good about themself, the easier it is to change their behavior. Right? Same thing about us. It's gonna be easier for you to get better, to improve, to increase, to change your quote bad habits. When you come at it from a place of feeling positive, empowered, confident, happy about yourself. And so I really want you to make it your full-time job to believe these things about you. I believe them about all women. I believe them to be true of all women. And so certainly they are true of you. And I'm a big fan of like doing the mindset work and figuring out like why we have these limiting beliefs. But also sometimes we don't need to always do the digging.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
We'd always need to do the hard mindset work. Sometimes we just need to accept and affirm and believe these new truths, right? Especially you guys know, I just, rereleased evergreen visible impact, which is a beautiful six step system that helps you get visible online in your business on a brave new level. And I really feel like when it comes to visibility, same thing, it's so much easier when we're fee so much easier to get consistently visible and ally visible, not just visible, like checking the boxes, but actually getting visible in a way that converts to clients when we're doing it in a way that comes from this place of inner confidence. And so before you write your next social post, before you record your next reel, these may be really good affirmations to listen to too, to really affirm and believe these things about you, right.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Especially when you're having a hard week, especially when you're discouraged, especially if you have a mess up, right. Or especially if like is hitting the fan in your life, like maybe you got sick, right. Really go back and listen to and believe and root into these things and live into them as truth. Okay. I hope that this is useful for you so grateful, um, to be with you on this journey, I'll leave the link to, to visible impact evergreen. I basically took this beautiful course that I used to run live. I ran it for 10 rounds and I just recently turned it to evergreen. Cause I was getting so many requests for women that were like, Anna, I don't wanna wait till you launch it. Like I'm ready to be visible now. So I made this six step system that you can use to plan six weeks of social media content, whether it's on Instagram or Facebook or whatever platform, right. Your podcast, and really this holistic way of like getting visible, releasing your blocks, um, and really showing up so that you can convert consistently when it comes to marketing for your business, for your audience. Um, so feel free to DM me. If you have any questions, I'll pop the link for it too. Um, but is so excited to see you, um, get more visible, get more radiant in your online business from this place of true inner, authentic confidence.
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